My Sunday confessional is that I love my in-laws. Is that really so strange?
I had a few “friends” last year who all hated their in-laws. Days at the park or mall soft play were spent complaining about their horrible in-laws; the people who conceived, birthed, and raised their spouses. There were some pretty nasty stories and then others where the gal was just seriously annoyed with some sort of perceived personality flaw that the Mother-in-Law had. It was infectious. I’m not even going to lie. I jumped on the train and rode it for a stop or two until I finally got sick of it. Anything I said was to feel like I fit in, most of it elaborated. I still, for the life of me, can’t figure out why I wanted to fit in with a bunch of embittered, complaining dolts, but they were all I had at the time so I did what I had to do.
Truth is, I love my in-laws. They’re really great people.
My Mother-in-Law is extremely thoughtful. If it weren’t for her, I wouldn’t have survived bed rest when I was pregnant with Madilyn. She always comes to our home bearing gifts for everyone and sends cards for every occasion. She makes me laugh and she loves to shop.
My Father-in-Law is just as fantastic. I love having intelligent conversations with him. I think it’s funny that he drinks unsweet tea with his cookies instead of milk. He’s refinished furniture for us, and is always available to fix things around our house that Kyle hasn’t mastered yet.
They helped me when I was in a pickle back when Kyle and I first started dating. They didn’t have to do anything – they didn’t know me from Adam’s House Cat! I’m 7 years older than Kyle and I brought a son into our relationship. They have been welcoming (although cautious) of me and my situation from the get-go. They’ve always made me feel like family and never once to my face told me their concerns about my age or the fact that I had a past and some 50-lb baggage.
We’ve had our arguments and they have their quirks, just like I do. But to be honest, I love their quirks (we all have ‘em), I think they’re wonderful parents, fantastic grandparents, and just all-around wonderful people. I love them like they’re my parents and Kyle and I have only been married for a little over 2 years. I think that alone speaks volumes.
So there you have it. Despite what I may have told you before, or what you may think about your own in-laws, mine are awesome. You might want to rethink your relationship with your in-laws too. I guarantee that their little quirks, personality “flaws”, and irritating traits are all things that you can not only learn to live with, but that you may come to find endearing. I assure you, they mean the best.