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How This is Going to Go Down

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Mar 302012
 

I have been suffering from paralyzing anxiety over perfection.  Before we left for North Carolina when Kyle’s grandma died, we had an enormous argument about the state of the household.  Or rather…the disorganization of the household and my lackluster performance as a housewife.  At the time I was blogging daily, socializing my children, teaching my children fundamental things like their ABCs and 123s, creating culinary masterpieces for dinner EVERY single night, ironing The Workaholic’s clothes nightly, and volunteering at Styles’ school a couple of times a month.

SOMETHING had to go.  That something, unfortunately for my family, for me, and for my bank account, was the blog.  I can’t.  DO.  EVERYTHING.  I’m only one person with 4 other people to take care of emotionally and physically.  SO now that the blog has been sitting here gathering dust for the past 2 months, The Workaholic realizes that I was bringing in a significant amount of money each month and GASP!  we need that money back in our budget.  So he tells me that he needs me working on the blog again.  AND keeping the house up.  And I tell him to buy me a BLEEPING red cape to go along with my Superwoman boots ‘cuz I’m just one flipping Person.

My children are whirlwinds.  It doesn’t matter how many times I run behind them to pick up their messes, 5 minutes later they have destroyed another room from top to bottom.  Case in point:  I cleaned the CRAP out of my bathrooms today.  I got in there and really gave it some elbow grease, cleaning crevices, mirrors, and shower doors that are sometimes neglected during my weekly bathroom clean.  I had to lock them out of the bathroom while I cleaned, simply because Grady likes to climb INTO the shower while I scrub it which doesn’t do me a whole lot of good.  I use botanical cleaners so it’s completely safe for him to do, just annoying and counterproductive for me.  When I emerged from my gleaming bathroom about 30 minutes later, the entire Great Room was destroyed.  Toys were scattered about, clean laundry was all over the floor, drawers in the kitchen were completely emptied; and the pantry was open, almonds scattered on the floor.

I wanted to cry.

The bathroom might be cleaner than it’s ever been before, but the rest of the house looked like the Tasmanian Devil had been for a visit.

Kyle called me shortly after and told me that he was on his way home.  At least 7 different expletives popped into my head because I knew that there was NO way I was going to be able to finish the squash casserole, clean up the disaster, change Grady’s poopy diaper, sweep the kitchen floor from the neglected lunch mess, and make our bed by the time he got home.   I felt even more like I wanted to cry but I was frozen.

Staring at the mess made me literally dizzy.  My inner monologue consisted solely of cuss words.  I wanted to crawl under the table with the dried up lunch meat and cauliflower rice and die.

Of course, add in the fact that the kids had been screaming blood murder since I came out of the bathroom and you have one extremely stressed out mama who is ready for an intensely long sabbatical of silence and solitude.

When The Workaholic stepped through the door, he tried to run interference with Grady for a few minutes before going to check on a (finally) napping Madilyn.  I finished up the squash casserole and went to see what the heck he was doing in Madilyn’s room for over 30 minutes and I find him sleeping.  Must be SO super nice to get a nap every day.

Instead, I’m stuck cleaning up messes, writing my heart out (what little there is left of it anyways), scrubbing mold out of odd places I forget to wash every week, dusting the ever-accumulating pile of dust on the furniture, wiping feces covered butt cracks, working on science fair projects, and obligatory after-hours performances until the very second I close my eyes to go to sleep at night.  Even then my mind is running a mile a minute about all of the CRAP that I have to do the next day that I will never in a million years be able to complete to The Workaholic’s standards because I’m only one person.

Maybe what I need is a sister wife.  Any takers?

So how this is going to go down is:  I’m NOT going to iron any more.  I already told him that if I have to make money, then I need time to write and I don’t have time to iron his clothing anymore.  I’d also LOVE to never have to scrub another toilet or vacuum our hopelessly disgusting floor.  Maybe I’ll get him to do those things on a consistent basis soon too.

In turn, he’s not allowed to berate me for what I’m doing on the internet anymore.  He SPECULATES about what I do all day long (because if the house looks like THIS you MUST be playing on the internet).  When reality is that writing a blog takes time.  Time to produce content, time to promote on social media sites, time to read other blogs and engage, time , time, time, time.  It’s a decent paying gig until you look at the time that blogging really requires.

So that’s how it’s going to go down.  I’m back for the long haul but I need some serious support from you, my faithful readers.  Support comes in all forms too so if you want my address so that you can send over a baby sitter, I’ll gladly provide it for you.

How do YOU keep it all together and make it all work?  Because I can’t seem to get my head above water let alone keep it there.

 

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  1. Jen - Life With Levi says:
    March 30, 2012 at 10:20 pm

    Amen sister! I’ll be your sister wife. We’ll be all Paleo and awesome and shit together.
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  2. Abby says:
    March 30, 2012 at 10:22 pm

    Summer you inspire me more than you know. Time to slow down,stop making perfection and focus on your needs. I only iron my snowboard. Your husband needs to do more than financially support. Your blogs are huge and a great way to educate yourself and other. Scream when you have to,a messy house mean happiness is happening.

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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 2:35 pm

      Thank you, Abs! He does help out here and there but it overwhelms him when he doesn’t come home to a Better Homes & Gardens magazine which is just completely unrealistic. :( I might have to start screaming into my pillow more often.

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  3. b.grady says:
    March 30, 2012 at 10:44 pm

    I recently ran into an elderly couple who’d been together 67 years. When I asked “What’s the secret?”, their response was “hire a maid”. This was definitely the first time I’d heard that! When I asked “Why?”, it made sense. It takes the stress off both husband and especially wife. She told me to take the money from my ‘getting your nails done’ fund, eating out fund, shopping fund, whatever it may be, find the extra for a maid before anything else. Although I have an amazingly supportive soon-to-be husband who does just as much house work as I do AND works 60+ hours a week, I still rush frantically to get things “presentable” when he calls and tells me he’s on his way home every. single. day. I have given up getting my mani/pedi every 2 weeks and plan to have a maid once a month. Maybe now with you bringing in the cash flow again, this could be an option and more importantly, a relief for you.

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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 2:36 pm

      That is the BEST advice I’ve ever heard. I would love to hire a maid and I might have to find it in our budget. To be honest, though, it’s not the cleaning I have an issue with, it’s keeping up with the CLUTTER and the DISASTER that my children make out of the clear blue sky. What I need is a mother’s helper to follow them around and clean up after them EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

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  4. Cecilia says:
    March 30, 2012 at 10:45 pm

    Become ok with the mess. If your hubby truly expects you to continue blogging full time and contributing to the family coffers then he is going to HAVE to let go of perfection and become ok with “good enough” and “great effort”. LOL! Your comment about a sister wife made me laugh…I’ve often teased my ex-Mormon husband that the idea really wasn’t that crazy once you looked at the division of labor! LOL! The other thing that I’ve made my hubby’s responsibility is scrubbing toilets. I do EVERYTHING else. He gets the toilets because in this house, I’m outnumbered…I’m the lone tutu, surrounded by (messy) banana hammocks. Boys are messier when going about their business so I decided that’s his job as head banana. Blogging is a full time job. If you were doing that job outside of your home, he probably wouldn’t have the same kinds of expectations…maybe mention that? In a loving way, of course. I love my husband dearly and respect the hard work that he does…and I expect the same in return for all that I do. Good luck and sending you strength!!!! :)
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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 2:41 pm

      I tried to give my husband the showers but he is the WORST shower cleaner on the face of the planet. His idea of cleaning a shower involved spraying it down, turning the water on, and getting in to scrub the shower AFTER the cleaning agent had been washed away. It was disgusting so I took back over. I LOVE your tutus and banana hammocks analogy :) I TOTALLY feel you on the bad aim men have. The Workaholic sits down to pee so that leaves Styles and he is actually a pretty good aim! I’ve been to my friends homes who have boys, though. GROSS!!!! Thank you for your encouragement and suggestions! I definitely need to talk to him more about his unrealistic expectations.

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  5. Madame Curve says:
    March 30, 2012 at 10:45 pm

    You, my dearest, sweetest friend are falling apart because YOU NEED A BREAK FROM THE MADNESS! You never get blissful silence, your kids have unnerving screams that’ll rattle anyone’s sanity in a short time, let alone day in and day out. If your husband wants perfection, he needs to treat you with respect and give you the ability to reset every now and then. BY YOURSELF. Not with a kid hanging off your boob (no offense, Grady). Communication is key, Summer. Two way street, right there. You are his equal. Give and take, not take take take. **sending hugs, girl!**

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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 2:42 pm

      Thank you, Madame! I do need some blissful silence. And a week AWAY. Seriously. I definitely don’t have anyone pouring into me emotionally and all I do is give, give, give, give. It’s exhausting and no WONDER I’m so close to the edge.

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  6. leslie becker says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:13 pm

    Summer, I am so glad you wrote this! I struggle with similar emotions on a daily basis. I read a booki called “Perfect Madness” when GoGo was a little baby. I found it to be enormously helpful. If you can swing a trip to the bookstore, on your endless to-do list, I’d reccomend it. Good Luck, Mama. You are doing an amazing job. Another point that I’d like to mention, is that June Clever had NO IDEA about attachment parenting, that must be the answer to why her house was so clean.

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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 2:45 pm

      Thanks for the book suggestion, Leslie! I am going to see if I can get it on the Nook. I need SOMETHING. I think June Cleaver and Kyle would get along great. He just lets the kids scream their heads off while trapped in the playroom so that he can get stuff done. I refuse to do that so that’s one of the many things that he thinks I’m doing “wrong”. C’est la vie. I’m home. I get to decide how the children are cared for. Thanks again for the suggestion!

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  7. leslie becker says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:18 pm

    *book, not booki…must have accidentally translated to child language.

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  8. Brandi Elam says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:26 pm

    I’ve got kids like yours. It makes it so hard to get things done. I feel for you. For what it’s worth, I can’t even think about creating culinary masterpieces each night…or ever, really. And no one irons around here, lol. So you were already doing better than me!
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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      It is SO hard to get things done with kids like ours. The people who say that their homes are lovely and that THEY have children, did not give birth to human tornadoes. Styles was wonderful like that too. It’s SO easy to point fingers until you have high maintenance children. I’m SO glad I’m not alone.

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  9. Bethany says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:47 pm

    I hear you, big-time.

    I don’t know how I do it. Okay I do know – my house isn’t clean all the time. I agree with the poster that said “become ok with the mess.” My kids probably spend more TV time than I’d like. And I have finally come to terms with… while I feel homeschooling is very important, *I* am not the right person to homeschool my kids. And until I can replace my husband’s income so he can come home and work with me (he’s an excellent teacher), we will all be better off if she goes into actual kindergarten next fall. I’m just not a good 1-on-1 teacher, especially with a baby distracting me, so I’ve accepted my limitations and we move on.

    I also don’t do any volunteering and things like that. Back in January I sat my hubby down and talked to him about my online work – and he agreed with me that it’s worth it for the house to be shabby, but mainly because it’s not long-term. Our goal is for both of us to be home, both of us to be working online and on-farm (once we can mover out there). If it was indefinite, I could see the frustration.

    But I think it helps when you’ve set a goal for it – ours will happen next year. Living in a chaotic mess is tough. It makes it a little easier if you have that light at the end of the tunnel. Which for me will happen when I make enough so my hubby stays home and can share kid/household duties with me. At that point, we’ll build ourselves a little cabin on our property and move out there, living simply and both work online and on-farm. Your light may be something completely different.

    The other thing is that I have dedicated work-time. Yes, I get up before 5am every morning and my kids aren’t allowed to get up before 8. We also decided that on Sundays I’d be able to lock myself in the office and spend a solid 4-6 hours working undisturbed (except the nurse the baby). I stick on my headphones and ignore the anarchy that’s right outside the door.

    I think, though… the kids play a huge role. Mine are not as crazy but they are still little kids, and I have 3 of them 5 & under. They are only going to be like this temporarily. So while I know I would be a better housekeeper and have more stuff done if I didn’t work online, I also know that my online work is what keeps me sane and grounded because it’s the only thing that I do that’s still BETHANY and not MOM or WIFE.

    Chaos and mess makes me crazy sometimes, but not being able to express the part of me that belongs to JUST ME would make me even crazier. I love working online because I love writing and I love marketing. And I’m not the Mary Kay selling type.

    So – in summary, I think it’s a lot more livable and realistic to just accept that life will be chaotic and messy for a while, and keep your outlet (and income). Someday, they will be able to fix their own breakfast and wipe their own butts. Just remember that someday will happen… someday :)
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    • Summer says:
      March 31, 2012 at 3:33 pm

      Thank you SO much for your awesome response! We should chat soon. I joined a wellness company that I think would be right up your alley (I’m not the Mary Kay selling type either but I LOVE marketing). I don’t know HOW you get up at 5am. I’m a nut that early in the morning. I should start going to bed earlier and getting up earlier, though. It would be so much better. BAH! Maybe I’ll get in bed before 11 tonight?

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      • Bethany says:
        March 31, 2012 at 7:34 pm

        Well you know if you’re ever in the Seattle area hit me up, we can go have a coffee :)

        As far as 5am… I don’t know, I guess I’m an earlybird. That’s my productive time mentally, and even though I’m tired every morning I noticed how much BETTER my day was when I had a couple quiet hours to myself in the morning before the kids wake up. Even if I have to sit the kids down with a computer game, put the baby to sleep and lay down for a half hour to rest a bit, I end up getting more done when I take that time to myself in the morning.

        Admittedly, though, I think a lot of it is because I can shut myself into the not-messy office (no kids allowed) and pretend it’s not chaos.
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  10. Jen says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:49 pm

    Perhaps you won the mega-millions lotto tonight so you could hire a live-in maid?? Fingers crossed for you! (I didn’t win it or I’d share with you.)

    You’ve got to give up more than ironing! Although my husband does not expect perfection from my housekeeping, I have to admit that sometimes my life seems LESS stressful when he is away playing army, because I will let the house be a mess and I have one less person who needs anything from me. Let me know if you find a good sister wife. I think you might be on to something good.

    I hope he will support you and your bloggery. Besides making a little extra $, what an awesome outlet, and I Iove reading along.

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  11. Bethany says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:51 pm

    P.S. I don’t iron. I don’t handwash either. Accept limitations and move on :)

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  12. Bethany says:
    March 30, 2012 at 11:54 pm

    P.P.S. You should post your Amazon affiliate ID somewhere. I always look for people’s affiliate IDs to use when I shop there… just sayin’ :)

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  13. Cari Walters says:
    March 31, 2012 at 12:19 am

    HA! I so identify with you!! My hubby is a perfectionist too (at least he was the first 5yrs marriage plus 2yr prior) Ive broken him in a little (13yrs later). Good for you for not ironing anymore!! I told my hubby when we first got married (and way before kids) that if he wanted a perfect crease in his pants he was gonna have to do it himself (at the time I was a costume designer and part of my job was ironing, I didn’t need any more). After kids, I pretty much gave up that perfect cleaning routine (not that I ever really had it down) There is just no way you can do it!! I only have 2 kids and when Im cleaning the bathroom they are tearing up the living room. When Im cleaning the living room they are tearing up their bed rooms….its never ending!!!! Chin up girl!! You can get through it! :) (((hugs)))

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  14. Adrienne says:
    March 31, 2012 at 2:49 am

    I can definitely relate to you and you know, my husband is a bit perfectionist too…But anyway, you inspire me a lot today…
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  15. FierceTam says:
    March 31, 2012 at 5:51 am

    I’ve been down for a sister wife since the second month of marriage. I’ve been down for two sister wives since Maxwell’s birth.

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  16. Savannah says:
    March 31, 2012 at 7:05 am

    Sending good thoughts your way! I think of you often and I know everything will work out. Here if you need anything from way up in RI!

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  17. Shawna says:
    March 31, 2012 at 8:39 am

    I only have one kiddo and my house is not perfect. Is there any way that Mr. Workaholic could spend a week alone with the kiddos? I think he might get a big surprise.

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  18. Maria says:
    March 31, 2012 at 8:40 am

    Hang in there and welcome back! I try to work as much as I can on the weekends. Granted it makes “Date Night” about as romantic and festive as shoe shopping.

    I am glad you are back. I always look forward to reading your posts!
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  19. Shannon says:
    March 31, 2012 at 3:31 pm

    You are strong:)

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  20. April says:
    April 1, 2012 at 5:45 pm

    Summer, I was once where you are now! 3 little kids, and trying to get everything done. Now, they are grown and I miss the times we had together. Do the best you can but enjoy your kids. I did have a maid when mine were little and it made a huge difference. I sent all my husbands clothes to the cleaners too. Hang in there, you will figure out what works for you. Thanks for your blog and your honesty.

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  21. Stephanie says:
    April 2, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    Just wanted to say I think you’re awesome! I feel the exact same way you do. Something has to give. And I don’t want it to be my blog! (Although it takes up at least 20 hours of my week and has not earned me one red cent…) Wish you lived closer. I have two live in babysitters! They won’t do anything for me, but everyone else goes on and on about how kind and generous they are. Keep your head up, and keep writing!
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    • Summer says:
      April 2, 2012 at 10:12 pm

      Thank you :) I don’t want it to be my blog either but YES! It is a part time job in every sense of the word! You are so very lucky to have two live in babysitters. Can I send my babies to you? :) I’m going to keep pounding away. You do the same! We’ll feed off of one another!

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