This has been an extremely difficult year for our family. In February, Kyle lost his Grandma Lillian, very unexpectedly. This came less than a year after I suddenly lost my Mamom, 3 days before Grady was born. Then in March, just one week after the anniversary of Mamom’s death, my Papa joined her in heaven.
I never dreamed that I’d have to be the one to deliver bad news to my husband when we got married, but that’s exactly what I had to do. I drove home from a meeting and told him the news. He thought I was kidding at first and when it sunk in, he was out of control upset. I’ve never seen The Workaholic react like that. It was heartbreaking.
Gram Lillian got to meet Madilyn, but never got to meet Grady because she lived in Wake Forest, NC and we lived in Savannah, GA at the time. I only met Gram a few times but the one thing that I will always remember is the way that she walked. She was stooped over but she charged ahead like a bull in a china shop. She always walked like she had purpose. It makes me believe that she lived her entire life with some sort of personal purpose. I wish I could find some purpose!
2 months after she passed, we found out that we were moving to Raleigh, NC for Kyle’s new job, and we found a home about 2 miles from where Gram lived at The Lodge. I never got to go see her apartment but when National Senior Citizen Day came, I thought it would be really nice to surprise the residents of The Lodge with an Ice Cream Social in honor of Grandma Lillian. TCBY and Collective Bias were sweet (pun intended) enough to remind us of National Senior Citizen Day and sponsor a surprise for an elderly person or two. Or in my case, 50ish.
My Grandma is in an assisted living facility for patients with Alzheimer’s Disease, and I am familiar with the relatively strict diets that they put their residents on. I thought TCBY Fro-Yo would be a better choice than ice cream. I thought of all the things that my Pop likes on his vanilla ice cream and loaded up on maraschino cherries, bananas, peanuts, whipped topping, and chocolate sauce. TCBY was a really big part of my youth and thinking about it makes my mouth water. I’m SUPER stoked I can find it at the local Walmart now.
Is your mouth watering yet?
Because of the short notice and their meal plan already having been arranged, the residents of The Lodge didn’t get to eat their delicious, mouthwatering TCBY Fro Yo when I brought it in. Instead, the head of operations was going to serve it as a snack at BINGO, which Grandma Lillian attended on a regular basis. The treat was in her honor so that made a great deal of sense to me and I was excited to be able to treat the BINGO club to something sweet.
While I was there, Kyle’s Aunt Kathy introduced me to a few of Gram’s friends. One of the gentlemen I had met at her memorial service. He played the violin at the service and I remember how he cried as he played. It was a beautiful moment and I was glad to meet him again.
Gram was active in the book club, and helped tend the library at The Lodge. She played BINGO and had her hair done every Thursday afternoon.
Hey…someone come do MY hair every Thursday? Please? Any takers?
The residents of The Lodge LOVED Gram. I wish I could have known her better, and every Sunday when we join the family for a big Sunday feast, I am sad that we didn’t live here when she did too.
I feel so blessed to have met her friends and to have been able to bless them with some TCBY Frozen Yogurt. They were all surprised when I told them that I had brought lots of frozen yogurt with fun toppings for them to enjoy and they said they couldn’t wait to enjoy it in honor of Lillian. Everyone fawned over Madilyn as well. She was extremely shy with everyone but it always makes my heart swell when older people fawn over her. Not because I am proud of her, but because I love that her presence makes them happy. Hey – at least she makes SOMEONE happy!
I keed, I keed.
I used to do volunteer work at a retirement home during the holidays and I have always said that I would like my kids to do the same. After the gleaming response to our visit this week, I think we might make this a regular stop.
Do you have a loved one in an assisted living facility or nursing home? What do you do to let them know you are still “there” for them?
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